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The Life I Ordered Has Arrived, At Last

Some of us wake up when we find out that we have two months to live. Everything changes. We do those things that we always wanted to do, before it’s too late. Some people wake up early -at age seven or at eighteen- and begin to make a plan for how they want to live. Waking up means realizing we have choices about how we want to spend this one and precious life. We start making decisions that reflect this awareness. I woke up at age 37.

At that time, I was married, the father of two wonderful girls, had a successful practice of psychiatry, and was becoming a respected person in my community. Until then, I had done what my parents, my genes and my compliant nature had led me to do: good student, solid citizen, not much flair, not much trouble. I had some trials. My sister’s suicide when I was 25 was an enormous trauma, and might have been a real wake up call. It wasn’t. There was medical school, struggles in my marriage, a stint in the Army, fatherhood, adjusting to a new community. But these were all things that seemed to happen to me. I adjusted pretty well. But until age 37, I didn’t feel like I initiated anything. I was just going along for the ride.

Since age 37, I have gone about shaping the life with which I am happy. It is my unique path, very different from the life anyone else would have chosen. I write in hopes that you will be able to use my story in your search for your own chosen life. You will make choices very different from mine, and the resulting creation will be yours alone. I hope that these reflections may stimulate your search for the life that you want.

   
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GET A LIFE
THE JOY OF A DEPRESSED MOTHER
OPENING MANY DOORS
GETTING COMFORTABLE WITH ANGER
THE PATH OF MEDITATION
GIVING UP CONTROL
MARRIAGE AS A CHANGE AGENT
STRUCTURES THAT SUPPORT LIFE
VERMONT AND NATURE
TO HELL WITH DIGNITY
COMPANIONS ON THE ROAD
DOUBLE VISION
WHAT SHAPES LIFE
DISMANTLING SELF
TOLERATING GOD’S LOVE
MAKING FRIENDS WITH GOD

LIFE’S RULES

 

 

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